The Secret To Meeting More Women

By:  Thundercat

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Has this ever happened to you?

You go out with some buddies for a night on the town, hoping to meet a girl to have some fun with.  You head to a bar, get a booth, and order drinks.  The place is kickin', and you and your buddies are having a good time looking at all the pretty girls... except nobody is meeting any them.  You want to talk to them, but you feel more comfortable sitting around with your friends talking about how you would like to go home with a girl that night. Instead, you all end up leaving the same way you came in - together.

This is a pretty common occurrence among the lovelorn bachelor. This is a symptom of what I like to call the "comfort zone."

Basically, everyone has a comfort zone.  This is a state of mind where people are surrounded by that which is FAMILIAR.  Familiarity breeds complacency, which can keep you from taking the action necessary to achieve your goals, because that action introduces uncertainty into your life - something the comfort zone likes to keep at bay.

So when you want to meet a woman, you need to know how to break out of this comfort zone. 

How do you do this? 

The answer is self-evident:  You must learn to meet women BY YOURSELF!

Friends can be a great asset, but most of the time, going out with friends actually HINDERS your ability to meet women.  Not just because of the comfort zone factor, but because other guys who don't know what they're doing with girls can actually ruin the interactions you have with them - be it by jealousy or ineptitude. So the best way to counter this is to LEAVE YOUR FRIENDS BEHIND.

But the prospect of going out by oneself can strike fear into the hearts of men.  After all, doesn't going out by yourself signal to everyone that you're a loser with no friends?  Doesn't it make you look creepy?

The answer to both these questions is:

NO!!!!!

The simple act of going out on your own can shake your comfort zone, because you have no anchors to keep you there.  Often your friends will act as an anchor to your comfort zone that keep you from approaching women.  And it is easier to break out of this comfort zone without those anchors present.  Plus, you don't have to worry about failing with women and being judged by your friends if they're not around.

But the most powerful thing about going out by yourself is that it puts your focus on what you are doing.  This means that every interaction you have is without distraction, so it is more easily examined and the problems you had are more easily identified.  This allows you to spot your sticking points more quickly and correct them.

Not only that, but being out by yourself gives you the freedom of flexibility when it comes to where you're going and who you talk to.  If you're bored with a place, you can leave and go to another one.  If you want to talk to a girl who your friends might poke fun at you for, you can.  Not only this, but you're free to mess up the interactions you have, because chances are, no one there will ever see you again, so you don't have to worry about what others think of you.

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